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It’s only a matter of time before you feel stress when you go out on a date. Date’s can have a lot of potential for you. You never know if you are going to meeting the “one” for you. It is enough to make a person stressed out and scared.
It’s important to remember that it is in fact just one date. Never get ahead of yourself when it comes to dating. If you start right off the bat about how wonderful it will be to marry this person and grow old with them, then you are going to not only scare away your date, but you are setting yourself up for a lot of pain and heartbreak.
One of the common fears on dates, especially the first date, is saying the wrong thing, or more specifically worrying about saying the wrong thing. You might have a Freudian slip, mispronounce a name or just plain old get it wrong, or you might even make a joke that you think is harmless but will upset your date.
The first step in combating this is to breathe! Relax, it will be ok. It happens to everyone, the biggest mistake is to think that you are the only person in the world who does these things. Just tell your date that you are nervous, chances are they are also. If you do make a mistake make sure to apologize but do so only once. Don’t turn into that person that apologizes way too much.
Instead of saying the wrong thing there is the fear of doing the wrong thing. Like with saying the wrong thing, you need to relax and remember that you are only human after all. No one likes to go out on dates with someone that seems perfect and makes them feel inferior.
If you can laugh at your mistakes then you are letting your date know that you don’t take things very seriously and are able to laugh at yourself. This is a powerful attractor. If your date doesn’t seem to find it funny, then you will know that perhaps they aren’t the right one for you. This will save you time in the long run.
One big thing that guys worry about is getting an erection. If you don’t bring attention to it then a majority of the time your date won’t even notice. They will be to busy in their own head worrying that they aren’t making mistakes to notice it. If on the off chance that they do notice, most will be flattered and make sure to just laugh it off. Don’t be the creepy guy though.
Remember these things and your dates will be come much more relaxed and fun. Remember dating its not supposed to be a chore, its supposed to be fun!
